Next month, I am planning to take a trip with my fiance' to the Soquel Camp Meeting in California. I chose to go with him because it seems like it would be very interesting. My mother on the other hand,is somewhat confused by me going on the trip.
I told her that after D. and I tie the knot, I plan on converting to the adventist religion. When I told mom this, she look like I had just slapped her in the face. Then came all the questions and the guilt trips. She doesn't understand why I would make such a decision in order to please den and why would I stop eating meat to make him happy?
She doesn't get that this isn't even about D. Nope, it's about me finding my our niche in the religious world. I love the church I go to, but the fact of the matter is that I've been going there for so long, I don't know anywhere else to be. Also, I feel that it's wrong to only go to a church or be a member of a certain religion because that's what your mother or grandma believed. That's just plain ignorant to me.
As for me and my food choices, I told D. when we first started going out that I love meat, will always love meat, love nothing more than meat.This was true then but now, I have been eating a lot less beef and more chicken and fish.When I do eat beef, it's once in a blue moon. I just don't crave it as much as I used to.
Then she tells me to make sure I'm sincere about the decision that I make. It's like she thinks I haven't given this the slightest thought and I'd blindly change religion. To me, I'm not even changing religions...not really. I feel that as long as you believe in God and Jesus,read your bible and pray, it doesn't really matter what label you go by.
In the future if D. and I have kids, I don't want to force then to go to church both Saturday and Sunday. I refuse to have my kids be confused about why mommy goes to church on one day and daddy goes to another church on another day.Kids today have enough to deal with as it is without worrying about church. I would rather have a house that is uniform in religion. Besides, when kids get older, they have a tendancy to decide for themselves anyway.
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